Welcome! Let Us Tell You Our Story...

Dear Friend, Welcome to our blog! We are Troy and Rachel. We have been married for 16 years, but with dating and all that, we have been together for twenty. We are the parents of five wonderful children. Kamryn, Adelynn, Brevyn, Landon, and Anson. We love them so much! We always planned on having a large family, and even though we were able to have four biological children, adoption was always in the plans. After Landon's birth, there were severe complications and Rachel was unable to have any more naturally. We were excited that the time to pursue adoption had finally come! We knew that there were more children waiting to come to our family. We were so blessed in November of 2012, when Anson joined our family through the miracle of open adoption. We adore him and can't imagine our lives without him in it. But, someone is still missing. We haven't felt right about going through the traditional adoption agency route. So, we are starting here and hoping that the right person will find us this way. Thank you and feel free to read on for more about us! If you'd like to contact us, feel free to send us an email at troyracheladopt@yahoo.com or find us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/troyandracheladopt We would LOVE to hear from you.

Our Letter To You:

Hi. First of all, we would like to say thank you for even looking at our website. We know that you must be feeling very unsure and emotional right now. Having a baby and making big decisions for that baby's future are heavy responsibilities. The fact that you are even considering adoption says volumes about the kind of person you are. You obviously want the very best for your child and are weighing your options.

We just want to assure you that if you were to choose our family as the family in which your child would grow, you would hold a huge place in our hearts. Your baby would be loved and cherished by parents and big sisters and brothers. He or she would be the recipient of fifteen years worth of "parenting experience." We have raised five babies now and are comfortable and confident in their care. Each one of our children are unique in their habits and needs, from six months worth of colic to extremely content and easy. They have all grown to be fantastic kids. We believe in letting each child choose their way. Some of our children love sports, some love music, acting, and dancing, and some love science and art. We encourage each of our children in the things they love- as long as they are having fun with what they are doing.

We also wanted you to know that we are hoping for an open adoption! We believe that an adopted child needs to know his or her biological family in order to feel secure. But more importantly, we have a lot of love to give, and would love to expand our family circle to include your family! Our son, Anson has pictures of his birth mother in his room, and we talk about her quite often. He knows her name, and that he "grew in her tummy." As he gets older we will continue to share age appropriate information with him, helping him to understand adoption. We love his birth mother and are so thankful for the amazing woman she is! We understand that you will have your own needs and desires for this adoption, and we respect that. We are willing to work out an agreement that both sides feel comfortable with and are committed to honoring that agreement. But, we hope that we can know you, love you, and have you as part of our family too!

So once again, sincerely, thank you. Thank you for looking into our family and considering adoption. Please feel free to contact us with further questions.

May God be with you during this time.

All our Love,

Troy & Rachel

What Our Open Adoption Looks Like

In November of 2012, we were so blessed to bring Anson into our family through the miracle of adoption. We believe that children who are adopted need to know their biological family. We believe that this is important to their health and well being. They have the ability to ask questions, know their family health history, see people who look like them, and have an attachment to their roots. Plus- a child can't have too many people who love them! Our goal is to give our children every sense of love and security possible.

With Anson's birth mother, we have an open adoption. She knows she is welcome to contact us any time, and we regularly send her texts and emails with updates. This is the level she is comfortable with, but we are very willing to have more contact if she desires.

Every adoption is unique and every birth mother is different in the level of open-ness she wants. We realize that next time around, the relationship will be different, and we are willing to work out an agreement that respects her wishes. We are not afraid to have a very open adoption, with regular contact and even visits. We are excited to get to know another birth family and add them to our loving circle!

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